I am sure I will repeat points from other blogs I have written but certain things need to be re-iterated time and time again.
One thing that I must state overtly and unfortunately though, "MEN ARE BEASTS!"
This is sad but true or at least it seems so at times. I know, I am a man too! I am pretty sure I have been a beast myself in the past, maybe not in terms of physical abuse but in terms of words and attitudes toward women but I hope to the Goddess that I never am again!
I said once that the problem with men is that they are not as evolved as women. This, of course, is arguable but what I meant is that Men, in general, are not as emotionally evolved as women. There may be reasons for that. Evolutionary traits can take millions of years to both develop and change. Maybe we were so busy out hunting and foraging, often a savage business, that we didn't have the time to confront and face our gentler emotions more while the females of our species had to adapt and face those feelings because they were the ones who nurtured, raised and fostered our young.
Millions of years ago, this separation of responsibilities may have been necessary for the survival of our species. It is not any longer and, truth be told, for some men at least, this has begun to change and there is signs of emotional evolution among some of us males of the species.
It does not come without effort though. It is at a critical point in evolution for Men that Nurture versus Nature collides in many of us. Long traditions of control and conquer war with protect and support. Beliefs that this is the way we should be battle with knowledge of the way we need to be. It is not easy to face down our peers who follow the old ways and say to them, "No, this is not right. It is inappropriate!"
As much as many of us would like to deny it, Men have fragile egos and we fear standing alone among our fellows. We fear appearing weak to others. We value strength but do not always have the strength to embrace our own.
YET, WE MUST!
This is not a sign of weakness but, in reality, one of strength.
We must be unified with others who follow our beliefs but to do so we must stand apart from so many others of our sex. We must be strong alone before we can begin to stand together. This is difficult as many of us long for companionship and fear the solitude that taking a stand may bring upon us... but it is an illusory fear.
I have explored in my previous blogs what I believe it means to be a Whole Man rather than a Real Man but this is one point I may have not emphasized clearly....
A Whole Man must be willing to stand alone against "Real" Men and stand strong in that solitude and when that happens, other Whole Men will eventually appear and ally themselves with that individual when they see their like-mindedness. Only then will the change that is needed truly begin to manifest. Evolution then will start to take a step forward.
We must acknowledge where we were beasts before and let the female of our species know that we know that men are beasts and that we hear their pain and the wrongs that our sex has inflicted upon them. As they say "#metoo" and share their experiences so too must we say "#ihearyou".
We must make the change within ourselves and in so doing demonstrate to others what must be. This is adaptive conscious evolution and takes a strength of will that many do not care to find within themselves. It is easier to go along with others much of the time and one thing about the human race, male or female, is that we prefer to do things the easy way even if we don't most of the time.
These conscious changes will be difficult. I cannot emphasize that enough. Though Women have been patient for a long time now, those of us who are striving to change not only beg your forgiveness for the past but also your patience while we struggle to do right by you. We might not have earned that right thogh. I can understand if you do not have the patience. I do not know if I would, but we who are trying ask anyway....
Men need to break down everything they have built their image upon and rebuild from nothing and, unfortunately, there are also many who will not listen. We cannot change if we do not recognize the need to change. Yet, still, we must let even those who refuse to change know that their ways are not only inappropriate but inherently bad for the future of the entire species. Perhaps we cannot argue with them and convince them to change but we can choose to acknowledge the unworthiness of their actions and their words and stand beside those we support instead. We can choose to show our disagreement toward their ways and walk away. We can choose to defend those we love from those who do not understand.
I apologize to the Women in our lives. Like all forms of evolution, these changes will not happen in one generation, perhaps not even two, but eventually voluntary evolution will bring this upon the male sex and change will come. In the meanwhile, us Whole Men will strive to teach our young and those who can understand and adapt so that more people will hear the message of #metoo and say #ihearyou.